Saturday, August 30, 2008

What is constructive criticisms and how to handle it

Opinions and criticisms are the part of life. They’re a dime a dozen. They are not always welcomed. Sometimes they change things

for the better and sometimes they make someone seem like a useless windbag.

Constructive criticism indicators

>It is calm
>It’s often preceded by a moment of silence in which actual thought and observation are occuring
>It’s not snarky, sarcastic, mean, antagonistic, evil, belittling or anus-like in any way
>It’s often accompanied by concentration in the form of chin rubbing and thoughtful frowning (not to be confused with mean, jerk-frowning)
>It is on-point and on-purpose, meaning it directly applies to the project at hand
>It is not personal or directed towards a personality (yours or anyone’s)
>It is results-oriented
>There more nouns and verbs than adjectives
>It is more fact based than opinion based
>It is often accompanied by good conversation whereby further solutions and ideas are ironed out
>There is usually a lot of head nodding and often a smile and handshake at the end
When it’s all over you know what the next step is and are excited to carry it forward
>You usually feel like saying, “Thank you” at the end.

How to take constructive criticism

1. Be quiet
2. Listen

Preferably, if you can swing it, do both at the same time.

If you’re on the road to greatness yourself, excellent criticism can certainly help shorten the runway. That’s how you take constructive criticism. Constructive criticism sucks sometimes. Even with the best intentions behind it, criticism can make you feel defensive, or like your project or skills are no good. A whole gamut of emotions can result, but if it is indeed well-intentioned, you should take it in stride and glean whatever you can from it.

You could decide instead not to listen, not to learn anything, not to pay attention. Those are options for sure. But they’re the ones that won’t get you anywhere. Whatever your station in life, whatever your career, there’s a lot to learn. There are a lot of people out there who are great at what they do. If you’re on the road to greatness yourself, excellent criticism can certainly help shorten the runway.

Friday, August 29, 2008

Anger - It is an enemy to happy living

In today's mechanical world life's biggest hurdles is accepting the fact that we can't always have our own way or that others won't do what we want them to do. But we can be our own person and develop our own talents and gifts. We will never be able to control someone else's life. We work ourselves into a dither. Stop trying and then you will eliminate stress, anger and frustration. Put all that energy into building your own life. Don't build anger cases out of minor annoyances and irritations. Give yourself a cooling off period

Angry? Stressed out? It's your choice!

Do you find yourself saying things such as "She makes me furious" or "He makes me nervous" or "This job stresses me out?" The emotions may be real, but the statements are not accurate.

When you are angry, or nervous, stressed, fearful, offended or excited, it's due to a choice you have made. The other person or situation does not make you that way. You have chosen to respond that way. Such responses are so familiar they've become automatic, but they don't have to be. They depend on your choices, and you control those choices.

The way you respond to a given situation is up to you. When making that choice, it pays to consider what will happen as a result of that choice and to ask yourself if it will have a positive impact on your life. You can choose to respond in whatever way you wish. So rather than putting those responses on auto-pilot, select those which will move your life, and the world in which you live, positively forward.

Angry response

When someone angers you, don't go with your first response. You may be wrong. Some of your judgements may have been wrong in the past. Most of all don't react right away. Think it over and give yourself time to gather all the information to allow you to produce the reaction, response or choice that is most beneficial to all, including yourself. More often than not, we do ourselves in with quick, off-the-cuff reactions, saying something we regret or do not mean.

A quick-tempered man acts foolishly, And a man of wicked intentions is hated.

Thursday, August 28, 2008

Short and Cute Tips to be happy and healthy life

1. A glass of water with a piece of Jaggery after meals is effective in preventing acidity, gas and bloating.

2. The humble red grape lessens blood pressure, cholesterol levels and even the risk of heart disease, Madrid University scientists have found.

3. Turning up the heat on red tomatoes while processing, can boost the garden staple’s disease-fighting power, say a group of researchers, who added that the effect may help fight cancer and other chronic diseases.

4. Two Malaysian Indian doctors claimed that coconut water is the answer to the dreaded chikungunya, and many other diseases. Although coconut water could not cure diseases, it would help patients recover faster

Wednesday, August 27, 2008

9 Tips to lead to happy life

1. Understand what it is that will make you happy. Everyone has unique requirements for attaining happiness and what makes one person happy may be very different from what makes someone else happy. Revel in your individuality and do not worry about whether or not your desires are comparable to those of your peers.

2. Make a plan for attaining goals that you believe will make you happy. Your mood will very likely increase as your pursue your goal because you will feel better about yourself for going after something you value.

3. Surround yourself with happy people. It is easy to begin to think negatively when you are surrounded by people who think that way. Conversely, if you are around people who are happy their emotional state will be infectious.

4. When something goes wrong try to figure out a solution instead of wallowing in self pity. Truly happy people don’t allow set backs to affect their mood because they know that with a little thought they can turn the circumstances back to their favor.

5. Spend a few minutes each day thinking about the things that make you happy. These few minutes will give you the opportunity to focus on the positive things in your life and will lead you to continued happiness.

6. It’s also important to take some time each day to do something nice for yourself. Whether you treat yourself to lunch, take a long, relaxing bath or simply spend a few extra minutes on your appearance you will be subconsciously putting yourself in a better mood.

7. Finding the humor in situations can also lead to happiness. While there are times that require you to be serious, when it is appropriate, find a way to make light of a situation that would otherwise make you unhappy.

8. Maintaining your health is another way to achieve happiness. Being overweight or not eating nutritious foods can have a negative effect on your mood. Additionally, exercise has been known to release endorphins that give you a feeling of happiness.

9. Finally, it is important to understand that you deserve happiness. Those who believe that they are not worthy of happiness may subconsciously sabotage their efforts to achieve happiness. If necessary, tell yourself each day that you deserve to be happy and remind yourself what steps you will take to achieve the happiness you desire.

Tuesday, August 26, 2008

Welcome to my Blog - Find tips for healthy, fit, happy and peaceful life

Leading a healthy life is becoming very precious in the current world. This blog completely relates to tips that achieves healthy life with great fitness. Getting inner peace nowadays are really wanting in present stressful life.

How to lead a healthy life with out medical interference?

First and foremost thing to have a healthy life is being smart in the food we are conusming everyday.

Timeliness of taking food: A person must take food only he is hungry. Taking food on time is also very important. Having late breakfast or lunch or dinner are not advisable.

Consumption of food: In general only half of the stomach should be filled with solid food and rest with liquids.

Methods of consuming food:

1) Before meals, wash yourself. Always have food with affectionate people in a neat environment
2) Have food that is been done by quality and positive person. This gives vitality and gives quality of the food.
3) Chew your food properly and this ensures proper digestion
4) Consume hard items in the menu first that is followed by soft ones.
5) Heavy items should be completely avoided before and after the meals.
6) Go to the meal only after the smooth digestion of you previous meal.
7) Neither take either hot food that leads to weakness nor take it cold as it takes to indigestion.