Romantic life makes happier than any other means

A romantic relationship tends to make a more person happy when compared to those people who are just involved in a casual association, according to a new study.// The Cornell University’s Claire Kamp Dush, along with other researchers studied data which was inclusive telephonic interviews with 691 people between 1992 and 1997.

They assessed the well being of the people with measures of self-esteem, life satisfaction, general happiness and distress symptoms. romantic relationships also had a positive effect on sexuality, physical and mental health. People who cohabit are next on the scale of happiness, followed by those in steady relationships and then those in casual relationships. Un-partnered people report the lowest levels of well being, the study noted.

Even those in relatively unhappy marriages appear to benefit from being married, perhaps because they benefit from marriage's stability, commitment and social status, Dush said.

"Being married is associated with higher self-esteem, greater life satisfaction, greater happiness and less distress, whereas people who are not in stable romantic relationships tend to report lower self-esteem, less life satisfaction, less happiness and more distress," she explained.

The bottom line, say the Cornell researchers, is that having a romantic relationship makes both men and women happier, and the stronger the relationship's commitment, the greater the happiness and sense of well-being of the partners.

Tackle stress by simple methods

Stressful situations can be handled in some ways where it does not create more damage. Change your body’s system to a state of equilibrium. That is nothing but fight or flight the stress. This will really calms your body and mind. Check below some more ways to tackle stress.

>>Take a walk: Taking a walk when stressed provides the bonus of getting you out of the stressful situation and providing some perspective so you can return in a new frame of mind.

>>Take a breath: You can feel better right away by practicing breathing exercises. Getting more oxygen into your body and releasing physical tension are two ways that breathing exercises can benefit you, and you can do them anytime or anywhere, even if your demanding situation is not allowing you to try other means.

>>Take a mental break: If you can steal away a few minutes of peace, visualizations and guided imagery are a wonderful way to restore peace of mind. They're easy to do, and can relax you physically as well as mentally.

>>Progressive Muscle Relaxation (PMR): Progressive Muscle Relaxation (PMR) is a technique where you tense and release all of your muscle groups, leaving your body feel more relaxed afterward. PMR is one of my favorite techniques, as it can be done by just about anyone, and with practice you can fully release virtually all the tension you're feeling in your body in a matter of seconds.

Reduce Tension with Progressive Muscle Relaxation

Overall body tension can be reduced by great technique called Progressive Muscle Relaxation (PMR). By doing this you will feel less stress and will get increased mental and physical health. Check below to get started.

1. Find a quiet place, sit or lie down and make yourself comfortable.
2. Begin by tensing all the muscles in your face. Make a tight grimace, close your eyes as tightly as possible, clench your teeth, even move your ears up if you can. Hold this for the count of eight as you inhale.
3. Now exhale and relax completely. Let your face go completely lax, as though you were sleeping. Feel the tension seep from your facial muscles, and enjoy the feeling.
4. Next, completely tense your neck and shoulders, again inhaling and counting to eight. Then exhale and relax.
5. Continue down your body, repeating the procedure with the following muscle groups:
• chest
• abdomen
• entire right arm
• right forearm and hand (making a fist)
• right hand
• entire left arm
• left forearm and hand (again, making a fist)
• left hand
• buttocks
• entire right leg
• lower right leg and foot
• right foot
• entire left leg
• lower left leg and foot
• left foot
6. for the shortened version, which includes just four main muscle groups:
• face
• neck, shoulders and arms
• abdomen and chest
• buttocks, legs and feet

Music soothens women during pregnancy

According to new study, listening to good music can help pregnant women to get relieved from psychological stress. The pregnant women varies from 18 to 34 weeks expected to have uncomplicated vaginal deliveries after listening to good music.

All but five of the 241 women, who were recruited from the antenatal clinic at a medical centre in southern Taiwan, completed the pre and post-test assessments. The demographic profiles of the two groups were very similar when it came to factors like education, occupation, social class and happiness with their marriage.

Half of the women were pregnant for the first time and just over half of the pregnancies were planned. The number of women in their second and third trimesters was more or less equal. Four pre-recorded 30-minute music CDs were created for the study and each featured music that mimicked the human heart rate, with between 60 and 80 beats per minute.

The lullaby CD included songs like Brahms'' Lullaby and Twinkle Twinkle Little Star and composers like Beethoven and Debussy were included on the classic CD. The nature sounds included Tropical Mystery and Friendly Natives and the crystals'' CD comprised Chinese children’s rhymes and songs, like Little Honey-Bee and Jasmine.

Women taking part in the music group were given copies of the CDs and asked to listen to them for 30 minutes a day for two weeks. They then completed a diary saying which CD they had listened to and what they were doing at the time. Most of them listened to the music while they were resting, at bedtime or performing chores. The control group did not listen to the CDs.

Participants in both groups were asked to complete three well-established scales, which are used to measure stress, anxiety and depression, before and after the music intervention.

The results showed that, before they took part in the study, women in the music group scored 17.44 on the Perceived Stress Scale, which ranges from zero to 30. After the intervention their stress levels had dropped by an average of 2.15, which is statistically significant.

Women in the control group reported a much smaller fall of 0.92. Anxiety was measured by the State Scale of the State-Trait Anxiety Inventory, which ranges from 20 to 80. It fell by 2.13 from 37.92 in the music group and rose by 0.71 in the control group.

Depression was measured by the Edinburgh Postnatal Depression scale, which ranges from zero to 30. The music group reported an average level of 12.11 before the intervention and a reduction of 1.84 at the end of the two-week period. The score was almost constant in the control group, falling by an insignificant 0.03.

Few Tips for having peace of mind

People are happy to forget their problems, troubles and worries and they like to have moments of inner calmness and freedom from obsessing thoughts. Check below few tips to have peace of mind.

>>Don’t spend too much time in reading newspapers.
>>Reduce watching news on Televisions.
>>Avoid indulging in negative conversations with negative people.
>>Learn to forgive and forgot. Avoid having grudges. Grudge only hurts you and disturbs sleep.
>>Win over you jealous on others. It only shows that you have low-esteem and it disturbs inner peace.
>>Accept everything as it is. Don’t try to change others rather change yourself.
>>Increase your patent and tolerance levels.
>>Have detached attachment and don’t take everything persona.
>>Practice concentration exercises and meditation.

Money is not everything to be happy

People have many and varied goals that they pursue, there is an almost universal underlying goal to virtually all pursuits: the goal to be happy. Those who spends lot of time making money generally do so because they believe that the only money will make them happy, or will guard them against things that will make them unhappy. If the focus isn’t on the money, but on the jobs that bring the money, those jobs are generally thought to make people happy. People strive for that perfect relationship, the perfect house, the beautiful body, the approval of others, all in an attempt to be happy. Sometimes these things make us happy; other times, we stress over not having reached our goals, or we reach them and find that we’re still not happy. Other times, we focus so intensely on one goal that’s thought to bring happiness that we don’t have time for other things in our life that will make us truly happy. This can all be confusing, and begs the question: how does one reach the goal of being happy?

Positive Psychology experts—those who study human happiness and the factors that contribute to it--have identified several key areas of life that seem to be more related to personal happiness. While it’s not an absolute given that dissatisfaction on one or three areas of life will lead to personal unhappiness or that satisfaction in most areas will automatically lead to bliss, there is a correlation: if you’re more satisfied with these areas of your life, you tend to be happier in general. So what are the things in life that are correlated with personal happiness? Some of them are the things that you would expect: money, friends, health, and living conditions; others are things you may not think of in your daily life, such as your neighborhood, spirituality, community involvement, and sense of meaning in life.

Sudarshan Kriya - Rhythmical Breathing Process

Keeping mind and body in complete control is becoming tougher and tougher. But there are methods, which makes this possible. And Sudarshan Kriya that is been revealed by Sri Sri Ravishankar is one among them.

Sudarshan Kriya is a rhythmical breathing process that produces chemical messengers by allows the pleasant and healthy mind. These chemical messengers travel from the nervous system and immune systems. These process ends in overall improvement of Mind and Body.

Even All India Institute Medical Sciences (AIIMS), New Delhi, India studied Sudarshan Kriya and revealed that this breathing technic gives mind relaxation, etc.

Now about Sudarshan Kriya:

Kriya involves regulating one’s breath to the sounds of “So-hum”, where ‘So’ means breathing in and ‘hum’ means breathing out. Kriya further involves multiple rounds of breathing having short, medium and long inhalation and exhalation with different rhythms and intensities.

Few excerpts from Kriya

>Three stages of breathing called ‘Kanishka Pranayama’ done in Vajrasana position.
>In this stage, one should learn ‘Ujjai’ breathing, which is very crucial to do Kriya
>Then process goes on to ‘Bhastrika Pranayama’. This is said to be fat burner equal to few kilometers walking.
>After ‘Bhastrika Pranayama’, the Sudarshan Kriya’s rhythmical breathing starts.

Everyone can do this to keep their mind and body healthy. This should be definitely learned from qualified teachers.

Factor of Happiness

Everyone’s action in this world is one only to seek and enjoy happiness. You go to a cricket match to enjoy the happiness. You go to movie, restaurant and other shopping malls to get happiness. You watch television to attain happiness. You are moving to a fantastic location to seek happiness.

Brave people feels happy by performing endangered things like climbing up the mountain, involved in punji jumping, diving in to the deep sea. A thief steals other things to enjoy that thrill. He needs quick money to spend. He is deriving happiness by that. In short all the action internally wants to end in happiness. But action does not fetch happiness every time. Moreover, even if you get happiness by above actions, it is not long lasting and we again go on repeating the same or search other things to get happiness.

According to certain spiritual tradition, we are spiritual beings in physical bodies. Spiritual beings are always happy. That is the reason happiness derived by outside is not long lasting. Happiness is always here, but covered by thoughts, desires and fears. It is experienced when these covers disappear for a while. When fear or worry comes to an end or a desire attained, there is a temporary disappearance of these covers. The ego and personality stop moving for a while and a great satisfaction and inner happiness is experienced. In order to experience it on a daily basis, one has to learn to calm the restless mind. One has to dive inside, because happiness is an inner attribute and is not in the objects or circumstances. It is in this world, but out of this world.

By following the above technique one can enjoy constant happiness.

How to get your ex back and be happy

Everyone in this world will go through relationship break in their lifetimes. It is very tough indeed to overcome that disaster. It is not easy to come to normal. Nothing can match that loss. The entire world will look dark.

But one should not succumb to that pressure and go to extreme step. If you bow down then you will become a small character artiste in movies in which they come and go off the screen quickly. But the hero of the movie will come out of the flames with heroine in one hand. One should be a hero in their life’s, they should come out of this break ups successfully.

They might say words like "lets part", "I have to go out of this", "I am breaking" extra. It is horrible indeed to hear those words. In that time don’t words like "I love you", "I cant live with out you", "I will die without you", etc. These words cannot fetch love as they will only feel pity on you. Guilty conscious will eat them. Always remember that guilty conscious and pityness are never going to make them love you.

Romance is like a dance, when they go back, you too go back, when they come forward, you too come forward. And mainly don’t chase them. You chasing them only make them run and run faster. Stop chasing them if you ever want to get them back in your life. Stop chasing will make them stop running and subsequently they would turn back. When they turn back and look at you, they should see a sick and confidence less person. You must be like what they like in you. If you are happy and relaxed and busy with your schedules, they will be surprised and it is like cold water poured on them in winter season. That will bring them back. It has worked in all the cases.

Be patient, it always works. Not being patent means you are more likely to lose them permanently.

Follow all the above tips and you will get your loved ones back. If not, then understand they are not worth for your affection. But by following the above processes, you would become strong and can move on.

So happy with you loved ones and enjoy your life.

Meditation - Benefits

Benefits of Meditation

By practising meditation regularly, the restless ness of the mind gets calm. Concentration power and mind focus increases as the sense of inner peace increases.

Overall the mind achieves peace. By attaining peace, mistakes are minimized, hast decision averted and ability to make better judgement increases. Tolerance and patience levels shoots up. Negative thought totally disappears.

An undisciplined mind accepts every passing thought, and wastes one's time and energy on futile, useless or negative thoughts. It also often aggravates every problem and takes it out of proportion. With a disciplined and trained mind, this tendency gradually gets weaker, and may even disappear.

Meditation makes one positive and behaves more constructively. It also increases the energy levels. It decreases blood pressure and more air flows to the lungs. It gives more emotional stability.